Brothers and sisters

As already stated, these big problems grow out of our little stupid things that we assume nearly all the mass in the beginning of a relationship with his own mother in law. Like the future in-laws - it turns girls into a sport where only the result is important, no matter what the cost.

First date in-law - an important topic forums and articles of female Internet. But what advice is given to girls, to date went well? Smile. To remain silent. Eat whatever you put on the plate. Compliment the food. In no case did not engage in debate. Oh, and hit all the advice: get dressed so as not to irritate the eyes, more modestly than in anImEITmx2 everyday life.

For what? Maybe a future daughter-in is exactly what is going to further develop relations with her mother in law: do not mind, is there anything that she cooks, regardless of taste, choose clothes to meet these demands and keep quiet life, without coming into conflict? If so, such a tactic is justified.

But to come to the first meeting, posing as a prude for that then, having mastered the soul and vterevshis elderly (perhaps lonely and unhappy), a woman start to behave very differently than when we first met - there is something dishonest.

Girls! Let us briefly stop and think: is there no other way to build a relationship with the future in-law, other than those clumsy attempts to please? Let us remember all those who love us. Is the reason they love it is that we tried hard to please, hiding among its qualities and exaggerating the presence of others? Perhaps, on the contrary, the secret is in our sincerity and naturalness?

And if we come to meet his future in-law in their normal clothes in their natural mood - whether that is in fact, not that which is prescribed in this situation? And we will not hide his excitement, because it is due to our interest in the new situation, a meeting with a new, perhaps, a very important person in the future? Can turn out worse than sit quietly and timidly waiting evaluations, hoping to gain revenge in family life?

Speaking of assessments. For all the excitement and bustle would be good to see and understand what is the mother of her future husband. What kind of person she is, what is breathing? Are there many hiding? Often Does not telling the truth? Smokes? Drinks? What is reading? What looks? As relates to your future husband? What is it for her son: a good fellow, or Ivan the Fool? If your future husband has brothers and sisters, what is their role in the family?

What is it mistress? How candid and frank person? So much important to find out about their future relatives before deciding whether they will even relatives! Prior estimates there here? All this is important to know not to put a bad mark or five of his future in-laws, the case is much more serious. After all, the future BnVUrL wife will understand what is the atmosphere of the house in which I grew her future husband, as far as compatible with their values? Can you separate them?

If, during the first meeting, it became clear that unfortunately, we found too many contradictions, which in the course of family life will only increase, then you are very lucky. Imagine what it would be if you came to this meeting with off from the horror of the brain, which would be flashed only one thought like me / not like me. The process of awareness could drag on for many years, and it would have been included your future children.

In the case of apparent alienation and dissent, it was found out after meeting his future mother in law (especially if future husband, too, was unhappy with the last meeting and blames the future wife), it is worth considering: perhaps it is better to turn back, without the cost of a wedding , division of property and child and regret for wasted years.